The ‘Strong Guy’ dating the ‘Feminist’ – my take…When an unstoppable force meets an immovable object
So a few months ago, I wrote a #Wisdom4Wednesday post on guys being intimidated by strong women, and the response was quite an interesting one so I thought I would expound on the topic in this week’s blog piece.
Dating a feminist myself, I wanted to use my experience to bring to life a topic that obviously has many forms of interactions (in terms of how each relationship in this scenario can play out).
So I think we would have all heard about the engagement of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle (& seen the memes!). I’m not a royalist but I’ve always been a Prince Harry fan and I think you’d have to be pretty cynical, given the unusual life he’s had - to see him find someone he genuinely loves and has found some sort of normality with.
A few weeks ago I wrote an Instagram post on how I knew Ayo was the one (for me) and I had a lot of comments, DMs and questions so I thought I’d expand a little further.
There are so many varying opinions on the concept of ‘the one’. Opinions on whether there is just one person for each of us, whether we should be pro-active in seeking out this person or let them find us, whether we should make a list or not, and so on.
This is the obvious phrase hurled about when talking about friendships. Friendships are a pervasive aspect of human life. The fundamental element to any relationship being friendship, whether it underpins a marriage, a parent-child relationship, extended family ties, old friends, or your regular platonic relationships – just name it. The tie that binds is friendship.
Over summer, we had the opportunity to have dinner with the beautiful blogger Finally Fiona and her awesome husband Laolu Kolade. We shared, talked and laughed about balancing work and purpose, protecting your marriage as you share your life on social media, faith and what they’ve learned in their first two years of marriage.
So firstly, I wanna thank you all for the amazing response to part 1 of “Where are all the guys at”! I’m still alive, no death threats received so I can poke my head above the parapet and issue part 2!
So it’s time to forge a case for the guys… and I’ll respond in kind to the points made in my previous article. I hope that this piece will unearth some home truths for the ladies to go chew on.
Here is how we met and put the boundaries in place to create a fantastic relationship. There is not one recipe to make it work but this is how we do it and we are sharing with the hope that it will work with you and your partner too!
Given the article title, the ladies may think that I’m about to embark upon a guy-slagging session, and the guys may think that I’m about to sell out on my entire gender… Sorry to disappoint – on both counts.